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Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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Nov 27, Laura Patak rated it it was ok. On one side, it was really interesting. Polite lies can be our defense against barbarity.

He Kyoko Mori was born in Kobe, Japan, in God’s New Whiz Kids? Overall rating No ratings yet 0. Kyoko’s take on life in the midwest brought me home to my origins in Wisconsin. A Brief History of Japan. And I will always love that a book makes me think. Wives, Husbands, and Lovers. I think she has some excellent points, especially the illustrations on how linguistics color culture, but she becomes entirely too unreliable from her personal attacks on people.

Since she received her doctoral degree inMori has taught creative writing and has published fiction, poetry, and essays. In twelve penetrating, painful, and at times hilarious essays, she explores the codes of silence, deference, and expression that govern Japanese and American women’s lives.

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Japanese and American Horror. Chi ama i libri sceglie Kobo e inMondadori. I learned so much that was surprising, ‘shocking’ is not an overstatement, about the restraint of the Japanese culture and particularly its burden on women. Feb 09, Yoonmee rated it it was ok Shelves: Certain phrases stick with me even now. She was forthcoming and not very kind about rules, expectations and impossible standards women are expected to follow. Mori describes some really eye opening cultural differences – health care and whether you’re told the ‘whole’ truth about your condition!


This collection “Polite Lies,” explores components of both cultures–language, roles in family and community, career expectations, marriage–with a lens toward expectations placed on women.

Thanks for telling us about the problem. Henry Holt and Co. Japan isn’t the only world where destructive patriarchy rules. I picked this book up at a thrift store and started it liws it in December, in the pre-holiday rush.

The Japanese culture, also seems be very uncompromising, too, and the comparison to the Midwestern culture was fascinating. In any book like this, a writer is going to have to paint with broad strokes to compare and contrast lives in two countries. It kept my interest and I read it in only a few days. Definitely going to read this one again — this time with a highlighter and pencil in hand.

Value in the Valley. Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. The Vietnamese Boat People, and — Honesty is also destructive…it lays bare the cruelty of the world and the corruption that eats at our relationships. I have seen mentioned in some reviews that she seems quite negative about her own country, but to be completely honest: It is a good read.

Polite Lies: On Being a Woman Caught Between Cultures

This is the book that made me decide to go get my Master’s studying Japan. This seemed a bit cruel, but this cruelty is born from an honest loathing.


Kgoko was interesting, however, because she was so candid and it was a unique perspective. A Discourse by Three Drunkards on Government. Who cares if your step-mother lied to the next-door neighbor about some love letter you wrote or didn’t write when you were a teenager? When I read about how doctors kies telling patients and their families the truth about terminal illnesses, I cried. What might be seen as bitterness on her part, or at least self-pity, I saw as related to the points she was makin If we had half-stars, I’d probably call this one a 3.

As another Goodreads reviewer wrote, I, too, felt uncomfortable with Mori’s Japan bashing. You can remove the unavailable item s now or we’ll automatically remove leis at Checkout. For her, Kobe was a miserable place with miserable memories, and yet, she can’t help but dream of it.

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I read Polite Lies today, in two sittings. Random Acts of Kindness.

It’s a beautifully written rant, but still a rant. Kyoko’s take on life in the midwest brought me home to my origins in Wis This is a beautifully crafted series of essays, linked in a lovely way. Twelve essays by a Japanese-American writer about being caught between past and present, old country and new. It can be freedom, but it always comes with a price.

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